I hope you had a lovely Labor Day weekend. We have a really special issue of Mind Power for you with a “big reveal” in Part 3 of our series, “How to Have It All”.
We even delayed this email by a day to make sure you didn’t miss it over the holiday. So, here goes:
We recently learned a startling, and rather disturbing, statistic:
53% of people in the workplace report being unhappy. Even though many have achieved great success and seem to “have it all” on the outside they...
...feel unhappy on the inside.
If you’re one of the many people who feels disappointment in life, or outright discontent or unhappiness…
...we can help.
Please read this special Labor Day edition of Mind Power, and the final installment in our 3-part series, “How to Have it All.”
In this issue, Marc Gilson, Centerpointe’s Director of Client Services, reveals the one thing that you need to have in your life…
...so you don’t have to choose between success and happiness.
P.S. As Marc will reveal in the feature story below, your innermost values will lead you to your most satisfying, fulfilling life. To help you identifying those driving forces (which are often hidden)...
...we’re release our powerful Values Clarifier, an amazing workbook
Don’t miss the Check It Out section below.
How to Have it All, Part 3
The One Thing You Need to Have, to Have it All
by Marc Gilson,
Centerpointe Director of Client Services
Over the past two editions we’ve discussed happiness, success, and the one thing that we need to have in our lives if we don’t want to have to choose between the two: clear values. We also saw how my client Chris managed to identify and resolve a number of conflicts around his values which, in turn, allowed him to make some rather simple changes that finally gave him a sense of genuine happiness.
I’d like to finish this series by sharing some highly useful insights from Centerpointe Founder Bill Harris. It was Bill, after all, who really helped me–and thousands of others–see the importance of looking at values.
Getting clear about what you most value, deeply and personally, is an eye-opening and tremendously powerful personal growth process.
As a refresher, let me remind you what a value is. The simplest definition for our purposes is: a value is something we think is very important in our lives. Seems obvious, right? But let’s dig a little deeper by looking at what Bill had to say about values:
“Your values sit at the root of your thoughts, feelings, and actions...all of which, in turn, directly impacts your results in life. So it is really, really important to take a magnifying glass to your deepest values, and uncover those things that drive you at your deepest level.
Then, you can put those values to work for you in productive, powerful, and even magnetic ways to attract the things, people and situations you desire most in life.”
We can begin to see just why it’s so critical to get clear about our values.
Values, says Bill, are the very basis of our thoughts, feelings, beliefs, and actions. Behind almost everything we think and do, lies one or more values that are influencing and directing–often in very subtle ways–our experience of life.
This “values structure,” as Bill called it, is like the pair of eyeglasses through which we see ourselves and the world around us. For nearly every action we take in life, there are one or more values behind it. When you want to know what a person does, simply watch their actions. But if you want to know why they do something, look at their values.
To state what’s probably obvious by now: values are a big deal. But there’s more to this idea than initially meets the eye.
Bill asks us to “go beyond” the basic kinds of values like “being a good person,” or “having enough money.” It’s good to know about these kinds of values but we need to examine them a little more closely before they become useful.
For one thing, according to Bill, we need to know whether these values are on our list because we are moving toward them or because we’re unknowingly moving away from them. “Sometimes we think we are chasing after something we want in life when what we’re really doing is running away from what we don’t want.” Let’s look at a quick example.
Many people place a high value on having enough money to live comfortably. Makes sense. After all, there are bills to pay, groceries to buy, and dozens of other needs and wants that require financial resources.
But how we think about the value of money can have a profound impact on how well we’re able to manifest wealth and financial resources in our lives.
If, for example, we value money because we are afraid of not having enough, of being broke, or having to struggle or scrape by, we might find it hard to create the kind of financial situation we want because our internal drive is busy trying to “avoid” being broke, rather than trying to find opportunities to make more money or save up. We might think we’re focused on building financial security when we’re really just acting from a fear of scarcity.
This kind of fear-based motivation usually ends in self-sabotage.
If you’ve ever wondered why, even when you use all the powers of your focus, you still struggle to achieve something you know is within reach, chances are high that your value around that achievement has you moving away from it rather than toward it.
People who clarify their values often find that the strategies they’ve been using are all focused on avoidance rather than attraction. By clarifying your values and shifting your focus (including your internal self talk), you can begin to attract more of the things in life you want and spend less time in fight or flight mode against things you don’t.
We talked about a form of values conflict in Part Two in which “Chris” had adopted his father’s set of values early-on in life and never spent much time examining his own values structure. For Chris, this created a conflict that resulted in him being quite unhappy in life in spite of his many successes and blessings. It took some effort for Chris to reestablish a new set of values that were truly his own, but as you saw in Part Two, it was worth it.
Bill also spoke about watching for another form of “values conflict,” which is when two important things we want in life seem to be at cross-purposes. For example, we might value both security and adventure. Or perhaps freedom and family are both high values. What about career and fun?
On the surface, it might prove difficult to enjoy these things in life because in many ways they’re at odds. If we really want adventure, we might have to take some risks. That means we have to give up some of our sense of security. We might really prize our independence and freedom, and yet family means a lot to us. Perhaps we value fun above all else, but we also want a rewarding career.
So in order to resolve these values conflicts we have to choose one or the other, right? No, not at all.
But deciding, in a very self-honest manner, which of the values belongs above the other in terms of priority will help you make decisions that ultimately yield more happiness and fulfillment.
Bill said, “Unless you can identify and clearly prioritize your values, these kinds of conflicts will compromise your results…”
This can be tricky. Not everyone likes the idea of putting freedom above family. That just doesn’t seem “okay” somehow. It might even seem kind of selfish.
But here’s the thing: If that’s truly what is more important to you, and you can come to terms with it, you may find it much easier to invest more quality time with your family and release internal conflicts or resentments that could be creating a lot of dysfunction and disharmony in your familial relationships.
In other words, honesty about our values frees us up to make healthy and resourceful decisions and choices about each value on our list no matter where it ranks.
When you’re plagued with internal values conflicts, you can experience guilt, frustration, shame, anger, disappointment, and, well, you get the idea. It’s no wonder so much unhappiness in our lives is rooted in a lack of clarity around our values.
So just clear up your values conflicts and voila! - Problem solved, right? Well, yes and no.
While there is a simplicity in the idea of clarifying one’s values, it can be challenging to actually do it. It’s sometimes quite confronting to discover values that don’t really reflect what it is we truly feel is important.
It can be a little disorienting to find that what we thought was important is really just something we’ve been pouring a lot of worry and energy into without much to show for it in return.
Or we might find values we’ve spent many years repressing or ignoring. Or, as with the case with Chris from Part Two, in addition to discovering covert values we’d ignored, we might even learn that the values we thought were our own really come from someone else.
No, the truth is that clarifying values isn’t always easy. In fact it takes a little work and some real courage!
By now you might be worried that clarifying values is too much hassle. While clarifying values is obviously a worthwhile process, it might seem daunting to delve into your values and try to put them all in some sort of order.
Bill knew this all too well. So not only did he leave behind a lot of great information on values and how to clarify them, he actually built a tool designed to help you do just that. It’s called (aptly enough) The Values Clarifier. Now let me be honest here.
You can sit down and work on your values list on your own.
You don’t absolutely need any extra tools. But this tool is going to make the entire process much easier and faster.
This workbook that has two main sections. In the first section, Bill gives an a lot of incredibly helpful info about values (way more than I’ve had time to delve into, even in this three-part series).
And in the second section, Bill provides a step-by-step exercise to help you clarify your own values. There’s also an audio presentation in which Bill discusses values and how to use this amazing tool to help you clarify and organize your own values set.
The Values Clarifier was originally designed as a complementary tool to accompany Bill’s Life Principles Integration Program, or “LPIP.” But it’s become such a popular stand-alone product that we’ve been offering it on its own to our clients for over a decade.
Anyone who has worked with me in a life coaching capacity knows that in the 20+ years I’ve been doing this work, never have I found a more helpful and concise workbook to help transform lives than The Values Clarifier.
I’ve recommended this tool to hundreds of people over the years and have gone through the process myself several times. I’ve even walked some family members through it. I tell people about it all the time, so I’m really excited to finally share this with you too!
This downloadable workbook and audio presentation has sold for over $40 in the past. Sometimes we mark it down to $19.95 when we’re holding a sale.
But this is the first and probably only time it will ever be offered for the price of $11.95. Yes, for under twelve bucks you can get ahold of one of the best tools we’ve ever offered for transforming your life.
The Values Clarifier is designed to:
Not bad, right?
And here’s where I get to say, “But that’s not all!” I want to remind you that when you get your Values Clarifier, you’re not just getting a workbook that fill out by yourself. You’re also getting the support and guidance of caring, trained, professional Accelerated Results Coaches.
Centerpointe’s ARCs are like family to me and I know how proud Bill was of their dedication to helping each and every Centerpointe client get the absolute most out of their program materials, including The Values Clarifier.
So when you get your Values Clarifier and dig into it, and you find yourself needing a little guidance or feedback, give our Accelerated Results Coaching Team a call. Just tell them you need some help with clarifying your values and they will support and guide you through the process.
...to have a group of people available to speak with who are trained to help you through one of the most powerful personal development exercises you may ever engage in.
I hope you’ve enjoyed this three-part series on happiness, success, and values. And I hope you’ll decide to give The Values Clarifier a try. I’d like to leave you with one more brief comment from Bill…
“Everyone knows success takes hard work. But what a lot of people don’t realize is that hard work doesn’t always make a person happy. You have to ‘know the purpose,’ which means you should know why you’re working hard. Is it because you’ve been told by someone else to do it?
“Once you get clear about your values, any hard work you put in will give you a lot more happiness and success because it will be an investment in values you’ve consciously chosen.
“This makes all the difference if you want to be happy and successful. And you can do it!”
Thanks for reading, and have a great week!
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