What Are Values...Exactly
Let’s call these the PULL of the push/pull dynamic. Focusing on these things in a positive way will give your mind instructions to create them.
You also most certainly have some values that you focus on in a negative way, such as:
I don’t want to stay in this lousy town (job, relationship)
I don’t want to get hurt in a love relationship
I don’t want to live paycheck to paycheck
I don’t want to be alone
I don’t want to fail
Let’s call these the PUSH of the push/pull dynamic, as in push away, so that you avoid these things at all costs.
However...and this is critical to know:
Your mind doesn’t discern between the push and pull, the positive and the negative. It works to create whatever you focus on.
And the more emotion you pour into your values, thoughts, and feelings, the harder your brain works to create them for you.
In other words, focusing on things in a negative way will give your mind instructions to create negative things.
When you identify your “negative” values, you can examine them for what they really are: Life rafts, bulletproof vests, bubble wrap to keep you from harm.
And while they had a purpose in your life when you were younger (they helped you navigate a strange, “dangerous” world), they no longer serve your highest, best good.
So, it’s really important that you get to the root of the values that are driving you, trying to keep you “safe” and working all the while beneath your conscious mind.
Clear up problems in your values structure and you will create dramatic and positive changes in your ability to create (and automatically attract) what you want in life.
Another dynamic of your Values Structure is that two or more of your values can often conflict with one another.
You may value, for example, these conflicting things:
Unless you identify and clearly prioritize them, these conflicts in your values…
...will compromise your results and create guilt, stress, and sometimes shame.
So how do you sort this all out?
I will give you specific exercises below to help you:
Discover what your values are
Eliminate conflicts between your values
Resolve the emotional charge from “negative” values
Structure your values to focus on what you want
Create a solid value structure that leads to…
...happiness, inner peace, and effectiveness in the world.
I urge you to find some quiet time to yourself to consider these exercises thoroughly.
This is not a quick-and-easy To Do List or a magic wand. It requires thought and intention on your part...even a little bit of courage.
But the results are AMAZING, I promise. And I’ll walk you through the entire process. So let’s begin!