Issue #134 – Monday, October 8, 2018
While bullying has become a national epidemic, and we hear reports of its terrible consequences in the news all too often, there is a pervasive bully who operates in the shadows, beneath your awareness…
...that you should know about.
Marc Gilson, Centerpointe’s Director of Client Services, explains in the powerfer article below, “The Worst Bully.”
I hope you’ll take the time to read this. It could very well change your life.
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The Worst Bully
by Marc Gilson
Centerpointe Director of Client Services
There’s a lot of talk these days about bullying. As we know, it’s a very troubling problem that many kids in school face. And unlike when I was a kid, today's kids have a new form of bullying to deal with: cyberbullying. Like most people, when I hear about the blatant meanness some kids endure at the hands of their peers…
...I find myself in an emotional stew of sadness and anger.
But there's a different kind of bullying that happens outside school classrooms and the online world of social media. It’s a subtle version, and one that can persist throughout our adult lives. While perhaps not as obviously traumatic as the kind of bullying we sometimes experience as kids or hear about in the media, this kind of bullying can have the same sort of lasting and devastating effects.
This kind of bullying can destroy our happiness, ruin relationships, hold us back from achieving things, damage our self-worth, and sabotage everything we do. The kind of bullying I'm talking about is so common that I would be very surprised if you, dear reader, have not suffered at the hands of this cold-hearted bully. Make no mistake, this bully is no stranger. This bully is someone you know very well.
This bully wears lots of disguises and shows up in many different forms. Sometimes it sounds like a parent or authority figure from our past. Most often, it takes the form of an inner voice that delivers extremely critical and toxic "self talk." It's the voice inside that tells you things like…
"Just give up, you'll never succeed anyway."
"What makes you think you deserve this relationship?"
"You're going to screw up like you always do."
"You're such a loser!"
"Nobody wants to hear what you have to say so just shut up."
"You have nothing of value to share."
Pretty harsh, isn't it? Yet most of us have heard our inner bully say things like this to us and haven't lifted a finger to stop it. In fact some people hear these kinds of things day after day and all day long while barely even noticing.
Most of the time we do our best to ignore this inner bullying and try to go about our day as usual. Yet the voice persists and, over time, we learn to simply accept it. Perhaps that's the most tragic aspect of this situation - that this kind of negative self talk is so pervasive that it just becomes a natural part of our experience of life.
Pervasive or not, this unconscious toxic self-talk can have a very real impact on our conscious, tangible lives.
The inner bully has more influence that you might think. It can keep you from some of the most fulfilling experiences in life. It can stop you from finding and keeping a healthy, loving relationship. It can hinder your ability to prosper and find financial stability. It can undermine creative endeavors. It can cause you to develop bad habits and give in to unhealthy choices. It can keep you stuck in your seat when you'd rather be up dancing.
This inner bully can throw a wet blanket over every aspect of your happiness and joy.
The inner bully is not a nice person. But then again, the bully isn't really a person at all, is it? The bully is really us. Even though the bully treats us in some heinous and hurtful ways, we have to face the fact that what’s really going on here is self-sabotage, pure and simple.
So where did this vile bully come from? The bully–this inner voice
that always wants to bring us down, make us feel badly about ourselves, criticizes everything we do–is often a collection or amalgam of many different voices. Many of these voices can come from childhood.
It can seem sometimes like there just isn't any escape from this inner bully, this controlling pig parent. After all, you can't outrun what is a part of you, can you? So are we doomed to listen to the constant criticisms and fault-finding commentary?
As it turns out, the inner bully does, in fact, have a secret weakness. Despite what it might feel like, there is a way to silence that bully, to get that critical voice to back off and let you live your life. How?
By paying attention to it.
"But wait a second," you might be saying, "why in the world would I want to pay attention to this mean and cruel inner bully? Shouldn't we try to ignore it instead?" Well, good luck with that. Ignoring it doesn't work. In fact ignoring it often strengthens the bully. Bear in mind that this particular bully–like other kinds of evildoers–thrives in the darkness. It lives most comfortably on the outskirts of your awareness, just out of reach, just beyond your conscious control.
It's there that this bully does its dirty work.
However, once you turn your awareness toward this voice, it weakens. Paying attention means focusing your awareness on it and becoming mindful of it. Like shining a spotlight on a cat burglar, the inner bully runs away as soon as you stop and allow yourself to become fully aware of the nonsense this bully is spewing at you.
As soon as you face this bully with full awareness–by watching yourself with complete acceptance and curiosity (something Holosync users know as a technique called “Witnessing”)–you'll be able to stop reacting with unhealthy and dysfunctional choices.
To put it simply: Awareness is what allows you to make conscious and intentional choices. Choices that silence the controlling parent and inner bully.
This is but one more in a long list of reasons why a healthy, happy life depends upon our mindful awareness. Nearly all major problems in life can be traced in some way or another, to a lack of awareness. That's not just me talking, of course...
"What is necessary to change a person is to change his awareness of himself." ~Abraham Maslow
"I think self-awareness is probably the most important thing towards being a champion." ~Billie Jean King
"Let us not look back in anger, nor forward in fear, but around in awareness." ~James Thurber
"Awareness creates choice. Choice about what you do or don't do in response to everything that happens in your life." ~Bill Harris
And the cure for the poison that your inner bully keeps feeding you is nothing other than to cultivate a life of mindful awareness in every way you possibly can.
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Have you heard enough nonsense from your inner bully?
You don't need to let that bully push you around anymore. Stand up to it by cultivating mindful awareness. Use that awareness to silence the bully by making conscious choices that yield healthy, happy, resourceful outcomes.
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